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Alright, I’m a male slave preparing for my 36th birthday. Naturally, the idea of wearing women’s clothes terrifies me. The event is at a drag show (I won’t be performing), and while I’ll look like an ugly woman (lol) with it obvious that I’m a guy, I think I can handle it. My wife is supportive and doesn’t push too hard.

So what should I wear?? I have some odds and ends, but most of my budget went into the wedding dress (see picture). I may not be a stock broker, but I approach this logically.

I believe I can pull it off, yet I worry about being noticed. The environment might make me uncomfortable; perhaps I’ll overheat in the wig and have to remove it; or maybe the drag queens will feel like I’m mocking them.

Ideally, they would be welcoming and chat with me more. I’m unsure whether regular women’s makeup works or if I need specialized products. Also, who tends to be friendly around here (when shopping)? The event is on Friday, July 16th, so hopefully, I can get feedback from you all.

Hi PGsSlave, First off, Happy Birthday! I've been out in public myself and honestly don't feel like I pass perfectly either!! This is my first time heading to a Drag Show; it sounds delightful. In my opinion, you can get away with pretty much anything at this kind of event. Most drag queens go way overboard with their looks. My goal is always to fit right in rather than dress outlandishly. I tend to look younger than my actual age—a woman never reveals her true years, does she?! I want to blend into the crowd and avoid being the center of attention. That way, I can have a great time without getting too many stares. It sounds like a shopping trip is essential. Don't miss this golden opportunity. Dress sexily and let your wife/KH help with some makeup. Walk in with your head held high, acting as if you belong there, and enjoy the night. But be careful: once you feel that outside air on your skin, you'll want to do it again... and again. Good luck, and just savor the experience. Missy Tanya

Really, this is the ultimate step—coming out. Everyone's journey is different.

We all had our doubts when stepping into public for the first time; we were both scared and excited. Even though I personally aren't a huge fan of drag shows, I think it's a great opportunity. You won't be the only 'cock in a frock';-) And when you get stares from men, I'm sure many will think, '...wow, I wouldn't have had the courage.' When stepping out, try to blend into the crowd. Avoid skimpy girly skirts or overly sissy frills; dress just like any other woman would. A drag show does offer a chance to go slightly more formal. Try to find out if there's a transgender dressing service nearby where you live. There are quite a few these days. They have experience with makeup and clothing choices. Be brave, girl! You won't be disappointed and will have fun! Happy birthday by the way. Hugs, Maid Katrin

The first time is generally terrifying for everyone. I have a sneaking suspicion that most people do it at Halloween for the very first time. When I was younger, I did every single one. That said, your own fear and attitude will be your worst enemies. Most people won't pay much attention to you at a drag show because they'll be upstaged by the drag queens themselves. Their whole demeanor screams 'look at me.' You will likely seem quite tame in comparison. If a bar is open-minded enough to host a drag show, it's usually welcoming for crossdressers as well, and most people there will be cool about it. Eventually, you might meet someone who makes a silly comment, but that’s better than not knowing how to handle it. You can also get a professional makeover if you want some assistance with your appearance. A pro can always do a better job when you're new at dressing up. Good luck.