Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Dollyanne has been pondering what makes the perfect keyholder. It’s clear She does more than just grab the keys and throw them into the sea. Does She offer training in return for occasional release? Is she nearby, or does she confirm things via webcam or photos? Does She show sensitivity to maintenance releases needed for shaving and cleaning? Will there be an emergency release if pain strikes or a doctor’s visit is required? Does She charge fees or accept service bartering? Is She interested in humiliation or sissy/slave training? What benefits does She gain as the keyholder, and what do YOU get out of it while wearing chastity? If You ARE a keyholder yourself, what qualities matter most to you? What rewards do you receive? What are Your rules for holding keys? For those with a keyholder already, how did you choose Her? How is the arrangement going so far, and would you change anything? Which traits define an ideal keyholder in your eyes? dollyanne

ideal keyholder... easy... check out Mistress Michelle's profile!

dollyanne... What a lovely thread you've started;) As both a Keyholder and Mistress to several individuals, I can share that I selected each of My properties based on shared likes and dislikes. It matters greatly that they were willing to learn about Me, chat with Me, and get to know who I am. Nothing turns me off more than someone messaging me saying, "I want you to be my Keyholder." Hello....I’m not a machine just collecting keys for amusement! Each of My properties is part of My family; they are loved and cared for deeply. Every one brings something unique to the group in their own way. I tailor our activities to fit their individual circumstances. I make an effort to spend time with them, chat, and play together. They all feel welcome in My home, enjoying both the kinky side of Me and this lifestyle, as well as My vanilla life. I don’t think you’ll find any of My properties who aren't comfortable on both sides with Me and My husband. Each has experienced a vanilla situation within My family before. Trust goes both ways; they trust Me just as I trust them. They are loyal to Me and love Me in return. I expect harmony among them, aside from minor issues which I swiftly resolve, making everyone happy to be part of this wonderful family bond. I need that personal connection with each one; chemistry is essential. I don’t take every sissy or submissive who approaches—I choose those where I feel a genuine link and bond. What do I gain as a Keyholder? Pride, Loyalty, Love, Respect. The only instance I held a key solely for the role was with Jenny. There was something special about her that compelled Me to keep it for some months until she suddenly decided to visit in person. I wasn’t disappointed at all by keeping her key before meeting; she remains unique among My family because of our distance, yet still vital. So...to My dear rachel, missy, susie, jenny, little pet—here’s to many more years together:love0059: What would I change? Hummm....Honestly, not a single thing. Oh...Perhaps just one: I wish I’d started this journey sooner before getting old LOL Mistress Michelle:sex020:

> Dollyanne has been pondering what makes the perfect keyholder. It’s clear She does more than just grab the keys and throw them into the sea. Does She offer training in return for occasional release? Is she nearby, or does she confirm things via webcam or photos? Does She show sensitivity to maintenance releases needed for shaving and cleaning? Will there be an emergency release if pain strikes or a doctor’s visit is required? Does She charge fees or accept service bartering? Is She interested in humiliation or sissy/slave training? What benefits does She gain as the keyholder, and what do YOU get out of it while wearing chastity? > If You ARE a keyholder yourself, what qualities matter most to you? What rewards do you receive? What are Your rules for holding keys? > For those with a keyholder already, how did you choose Her? How is the arrangement going so far, and would you change anything? Which traits define an ideal keyholder in your eyes? > Click to expand... *Training paired with release? No, I often train without getting released. She isn’t local; we’re about 600 miles apart. Sometimes she asks me to turn on my camera so she can watch, but it’s more for connection than verification. Trust is key: if She tells me to do something and I reply yes Mistress, you can bet your sweet ass I’m doing it. My #1 Rule—never lie to Mistress. I’ve had only one orgasm in Her presence, which is mostly due to the distance (at least that’s what I hope). Maintenance and emergency releases? Yes, life goes on! She shows care and compassion regarding these. I’d say we barter services; I do things for her, and she does things for/to me. We haven’t fully crossed into humiliation territory yet. Where we go is up to Her preference. Though She likes sissies—she spotted the sissy in crossdresser rachel long before I realized it myself (took less than three days). What does She get? First, my love, respect, and dedication specifically directed at HER. Second, enjoyment from watching me struggle through My predicaments, plus bonus points as she gets her house cleaned and other chores handled. What do I gain? Seeing Her smile, hearing Her laugh, feeling love, satisfaction, happiness. Giving myself to Her completely along with plenty of whippings (lots of them). Acceptance of who I truly am—no curtains hiding any part of me. The good, the bad, and all my different sides matter little in the end; everything will be okay. It seems almost unfair how much I get compared to what She receives now that I compare both lists side-by-side. I didn’t select Her; she chose me! I emailed CL just to comment on her profile picture with no hidden agenda. Next thing I knew, our emails were flying back and forth so fast they nearly crashed Al Gore’s internet (LOL). Then came the invitation for a visit. The moment I laid eyes on this gorgeous creature of God, I felt doomed—destined there solely to make Her happy however long it took. How is it going? Fantastic, superb, great, fabulous! If it improved any further, it might be outlawed. Of course, we’ve had trials and tribulations, but mostly those were my fault when uncertainty got the better of me. Then comes some remedial "training"—sometimes physical, sometimes mental. Banishment hurts most because Mistress is like my daily cup of orange juice; as Anita Bryant once said, a day without orange juice is like a day without sunshine. Change? Yes! First, I’d meet Her twenty years earlier. Second, I wouldn’t act such a heel at times. Third, I’d get "it" right the first time and every subsequent time. Domme traits? Kindness, compassion, caring yet strict, stern when needed but unyielding in principle. These are qualities you can't find just with professional dommes; they come from someone truly living this lifestyle who knows you intimately enough that a safe-word is rarely necessary. She intuitively senses when you’ve reached your limit and gently pushes you further each time. Check out my Rachels trip thread for details on MM’s last visit to see how compassion coexists with unyielding strength as I was broken in by the cage there. I hope everyone finds their own version of MM—the person who frees your soul from society's prisons. MM's sweetpea rachel

i thought this was a great thread and wanted to bump it for anyone who might have missed it over the weekend since there are only three replies total. MM's sweetpea rachel

rachel~ I believe the reason for so few replies is that you’ve pretty much covered everything. Your response was thorough and beautifully written; there isn’t much left to add.

Ms Linda, Thank You for the kind words:embarrassed-1: . MM's sweetpea rachel