Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I see two distinct kinds of advantage a man can get from being in chastity, and they don’t overlap. When I first tried it out, my wife used me for her own pleasure while largely ignoring me personally. I didn’t really enjoy that setup much; even though I gave her orgasms via penetration, I never came close to having one myself during those 10 days without climaxing. But when she finally let me cum, the experience was absolutely mind-blowing, and a huge wave of gratitude washed over me for giving me that release.

Later, at my request, we shifted how denial worked so there was more teasing involved. During most of our sex sessions, she got her orgasm, but I was teased right up to the edge and kept there for ages. This felt totally different from those first 10 days. It seemed like the sexual activity lasted forever without my arousal dropping down completely. When I did finally come this time, it was pleasant rather than mind-blowing, and that intense gratitude rush didn’t happen as strongly after this second period of denial, even if I extended the time.

So there is a choice to make here. If you want one massive physical and emotional payoff, choose the first type of chastity where most men stay locked up with no penetrative sex during the denial phase. But if you prefer continuous arousal and enjoyment that just keeps rolling along, plus stronger emotional bonds without needing that ultra-high peak at the end, go for multiple teasing sessions instead. Does anyone else here share this experience?

I completely understand what you mean. There's edging that lasts for days while staying out of the cage (cb), where you can have sex freely but just don't cum. Then there is wearing a cb long-term and finally getting out to experience one mind-blowing orgasm after all that time. Both approaches are wonderful in their own way, so I try to do both because I love them equally. I use a CB6000 model and deny myself for several weeks at a time. Since my foreskin is intact (uncut), I need to take it off every few days just to clean up, but then put the cage back on immediately. I don't allow myself to jack off during this time. Earning the right to cum feels awesome when I finally do, although denial inside the cb can be frustrating; strangely enough, there is pleasure in that frustration too. Alternatively, I go for weeks edging while not wearing a device but still holding back from ejaculating entirely. In that state, I jack off as much as I want and stay highly charged with constant lust, which feels incredible. Having experienced both sides, I believe they are equally great. I wish all men could try out both methods to truly feel the difference.

**I enjoy being locked up... it gives me no contact and plenty of teasing. The orgasm when I am finally released and permitted penetration is incredible.** A question about desire: I have always been a straight conservative man. I read with interest (and sometimes amusement) the various relationship styles described here on this forum. Everyone does their own thing, and that works fine for me. While locked up and deprived of sexual contact from my female KH, I find myself experiencing - or perhaps just fantasizing about - wanting to be penetrated anally or even sucking a penis to orgasm. It makes me feel slightly embarrassed admitting it, but I would like to try it at least once to see what that sensation is like. Do any of you have similar thoughts?**:blink:

Wearing a device keeps me constantly aware of being locked in; it serves as a steady reminder. Yet the denial she controls represents ultimate control over us. If we (the males) are satisfying her needs without receiving our own satisfaction, this dynamic becomes even stronger. However, the reward I receive from her is also supreme, involving both giving and sharing. Men like me are trained to be there for Her first rather than ourselves initially. She takes hold of all that control which we desire, making her use of chastity on us feel definitive. I rarely get allowed a release because she has convinced me that I haven't earned it properly yet. Let's continue sharing our stories; it is fascinating to hear everyone else's perspective.

> lockedandlovingit said: > **I enjoy being confined... no contact and lots of teasing. The orgasm when let out and allowed to penetrate is amazing. A question regarding desire... I have always been straight and conservative. I read with interest (and sometimes amusement) the relationship types outlined here. Everyone does their own thing, which works for me. > ** > Click to expand... I experience these feelings too; I'd just like to give it a try to see how it feels.:rolleyes:

> lockedandlovingit said: > **I enjoy being confined... no contact and lots of teasing. > ** > Click to expand... I'm curious. How do you get teased if you are locked in with no contact?

> lockedandlovingit said: > **I enjoy being confined... no contact and lots of teasing. The orgasm when let out and allowed to penetrate is amazing. A question regarding desire... I have always been straight and conservative. I read with interest (and sometimes amusement) the relationship types outlined here. Everyone does their own thing, which works for me. > ** > Click to expand... I am also straight, enjoy being confined part of the time, and absolutely love having my ass penetrated. My KH gets a thrill from seeing me locked up and kneeling before her strap-on. Because of this, earning my release while in confinement often involves taking her strap-on both orally and anally. Have fun with it!