Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello! I’d like to kick things off by introducing myself as the slave of a lifestyle Domme who has recently (within the last few months) taken it upon herself to stay in chastity at her own pace. Given this, I currently know very little and would be grateful for some advice. The CB2000 device is what I’m wearing—it’s quite tastefully pink. My issue is that I can’t seem to find a ring size that works well both when ‘aroused’ and when not. Either the ring feels loose enough so it doesn’t hurt while aroused, but might slip off when soft; or it fits snugly in the flaccid state yet digs painfully into me during arousal, leaving marks and waking me up at night. I’ve never compared my measurements with others, so now I’m wondering if there’s a significant difference between my erect girth versus my flaccid one. Is this common, please? Do I just have to accept wearing the smaller ring size forevermore and perhaps lose good sleep entirely? It seems rather intimidating if that’s the case… Thanks in advance for any advice!:) nieil

Hi there! Welcome. I had the same problem with my plastic CB device. Eventually switched to a steel model—similar design but no digging in and much more comfortable. Try using standard steel cock rings on top of the ones that came with your unit; it helps keep your testicles from retracting too far. Experiment with different combinations.