Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

For those who skim: Can you stop erections entirely, not just orgasms? The key is that it must be temporary! I don’t want to remain a eunuch forever.

To everyone else: I’m a university student aiming for a top-tier post-bachelor program. For me, the biggest distraction while researching is finding something that really gets my attention. My curiosity is strong and my willpower weak; when I spot something new, I have to investigate it immediately. Things get hard quickly… And as you can imagine, what follows.

Simply put, I’m done with being a slave to my most basic instincts.

However, this shouldn’t be permanent. I’d like children in a few years (just not right now).

So, is there a method to stop erections before they begin?

I’ve used the devices often mentioned here: CB6000 and Birdlocked. The issue is that these don’t prevent erections from forming (and yes, you can still cum in them; I’m aware). More crucially, I can’t wear them long-term because the ring chafes my skin. Lotions help delay the irritation but don’t solve it.

I’ve considered chemical castration, though I worry about side effects. Also, if I mention it to my doctor, they give me that:confused0068: look.

Am I overlooking something? Does anyone here have experience with this?

You've only considered plastic and silicone so far. Metal could be the solution for you. Maybe try a metal cock ring to see if it bothers your skin less. They are much smoother, and many people find them more effective. Custom-made options also offer a snug fit around the shaft, specifically designed to help block erections. I'm not certain about chemical or medical approaches... perhaps someone else can weigh in.

Let me add my two cents: for me, **chastity** play acts as an aphrodisiac. I actually feel *more* aroused and think about sex more frequently while wearing my device. It might be having the reverse effect on you; you could find it even harder to concentrate and stay productive. Honestly, when I need to get things done, taking care of myself manually is the fastest way to snap out of that mindset and return to reality. mikecb

I have to agree with mikecb. Everyone is different though. It really comes down to whether your issue is constantly thinking about sex or just compulsively masturbating because it feels good. Either way would likely distract you during grad school.

You are certainly free to do what works best for you, but since you asked, let me address your question directly and share my view. I believe what you're attempting won't work. It will likely produce the opposite effect of what you desire. As a young man in college with hormones circulating through your body trying to distract you from other tasks, that is part of being human, and fighting it comes at a cost. In this situation, if you **lock** up your penis and deny yourself relief (whether occasional or frequent), you will probably shift from being distracted by sexual urges most of the time to being overwhelmed by them every moment. You'll think about sex and **orgasm**s ALL THE TIME. Every person you see might seem like a potential partner (or keyholder). Without getting unlocked, there's little else you can do. Of course, some of us find that idea quite enjoyable. (Maybe you will too). But if your goal is to spend less time distracted by sex and live a more "balanced" life where you have mental space for other things, the remedy might seem paradoxical: just have sex occasionally. Find a willing partner or simply masturbate when the urge strikes. Really. It won't hurt anyone, and at your age, it's what your body wants. However, maybe that isn't what you truly want. Maybe you *like* being denied specifically because you crave the heightened desire that comes with enforced **chastity**. If so, welcome! Just my perspective.

I must agree with the opinions above. Once locked, you will become obsessed with your genitals. The device serves as a constant reminder of your suppressed sexuality. I was forced into locking up, but like many others, I learned to enjoy that continuous arousal without hope of **release** until my Mistress decided otherwise. Without a keyholder around, I fear you'll be unlocking yourself at least once daily, if not more.

In that case, why not just get it right with a good wank and enjoy an hour or two (or even three) of distraction-free time? This approach might actually work better.