Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Just wondering how many have made it through those 90 days? What was that experience like for you? Did you manage to recover once they were done? How many of you stayed in chastity after that initial period? We’re considering trying a few different approaches and I’d love some feedback from people who’ve walked this path before. Our first attempt will likely involve giving my slave a toy sometime soon.

I see you're seeking out those who succeeded in completing the time. I'd love to give it a go. However, I don't think my key holder / wife can wait that long for me. I wouldn't deny her just so I could hit that 90-day milestone. It's all about what she wants!;-)

Agreed, gabriellia, i dont think miss c would want to go without a real cock for 90 days,however she has toys that she loves. it dose not matter much as im sure i would be okay being locked for 3 months

Well through 90 days with no end in sight. I have found that you settle down into the lifestyle and although you can have very frustrating moments in reality it is life as normal. If you are using a device then it is important to find one that is comfortable and fits well leaving no irritations. I was not able to achieve this with a ball trap devices and we decided to get a PA piercing, probably the best decision we made as now D has no issues with leaving me lock without any release with full denial indefinitely. Cleaning issue is also solved with most of the PA devices as the glands are exposed and you can clean normally in the shower. I hated the smell that came with tubes like CB6000 etc. D does enjoy her morning sessions by playing with my balls and also attending to my bottom, its her way to tease me and to make sure I stay focused on her. D also gets serviced by me regularly and at anytime she requests, that orally. It is exactly 5 months today that I was last allowed intercourse and an orgasm, but this has not been an issue and our relationship is stronger than ever.

Young88, thats awasom for u to, miss c also enjoys playing w my balls in the morning or night

6 months is my record. I was starting to wonder if it was going to be a year.

i spose it depends on your Mistress and what She wants. ive been locked up for over 6 months and all i can do is try to please Mistress orally. She seems to like it a lot cos She moans and groans a lot. Ooh, the Post and Edit thingies are working now.

I'm on 120 days today with no end in immediate sight and no talkeven really of when I might be released or not. I don't want to bring it up and she only speaks of "youll get out when I have use of it." I wonder some days if she'll ever have use of it again ever! deena

110 days is max for me so far. I was recently threatened with three years! Don't know if that will happen although, She has been looking to start cuckolding me again. Even instructed me to search for potential studs, so i could go wayyy longer than 110 days if this comessck into our lives. subklik

I'll let you know in 32 days!

So, question for all long-term wearers: do you have short breaks for cleaning or this is long time in the belt without ANY release? (and what with hygiene or chaffing in such situation?).

jemima is released weekly for cleaning and shaving. It usually takes around 10 minutes.

I think my longest without any unlocking was 9 days . Falls a little short of 90 days .

@Fetish and all you others who are interested, and concerning cleaning while wearing the CB: As far as cleaning goes i learned to clean well enough to pass a sniff test that my Wife conducted daily. i used alcohol and long hospital type swabs to get thoroughly in and around the entire tube. First there is dirt like you cannot believe on the shaft of the cock after being locked up, then there is a crusty dirt that gets on the tube itself and you never get all of it off but i learned to get pretty close. Sounds gross huh? Well it is so that should motivate even the laziest among us. Being in a 6000 i had to contend with one broken ring somwhere around the 70th day which i changed in front of Mistress without actually taking the tube off and that ended the mechanical failure for this duration. For some strange (or lucky????) reason the tube did not split during this entire 110 day run. Amazing as that sounds (rolling my eyes in sarcasm) but i did get genuinely lucky with that particular tube. So that entire time Her cock was locked in a CB 6000 without one single moment of fresh air on the skin of that poor thing. Not that She felt any pity mind you. As far as chaffing, i have been in the CB 6000 for going into my thrid year now so fit and fiddling has long been taken care of and it is relativley smooth sailing. Not without a number of cuts and trial and error fittings and wanting to give up and swearing it is impossible and "why did we ever think this would work.." etc when i finally figured out the right combo for me it was like magic, no more cuts, no more abrasions and no more disomfort of any kind form any part of the device! Quite remarkable really considering what a small thing it was to get that final adjustment corrected. I went up one pin and spacer to the next longest size and voila, been there ever since to my detriment that is. Now She never has to worry or think about it anymore. If they ever make a version that actuially*** doesn;t break*** (more sarcasm here) I shall be in real trouble. Oh gawd A.L. enterprizes, have you ***fixed ***it yet?? It is essentially such a great design, but is it ever going to be perfected so it doesn;t threaten to make us eunuchs? (See thread on castration in the powder room for that) I will continue to buy the parts and lock up Her parts or...oh yeah buy a steel one (like MM) why didn't someone tell me? :loveCM:

In the 6 month of lock up I was not allowed any release. But when I was I could have shampooed a Buffalo

Hi. 183 days and counting--by far my longest lock-up in the 8 years we have been doing this. Interesting that it follows a nearly 4 month break after one of those "stops" we all seem to encounter on our journeys. We worked through some issues and I looked in the mirror and realized that for this to be legitimate that I must forgo my topping from the bottom and any expectations of how I think she should behave or treat me. I timidly suggested we try again in January and she jumped right on it apparently missing it as much as I. No more directing, no more whining and I am now learning to stifle frustration and disdain about mundane things or requests and just smile. Things are great at the 6 month mark. Plenty of backrubs, footrubs, pedicures, massages, prepared meals/refreshments as my work schedule permits. She is more than satisfied with one of her vibrators 3 to 4 times per week. For this interval my only pleasure has been to hold her closely and feel her explode into orgasmic shudders while laying astride her. I have not questioned it but there is no kissing her on the lips, no oral worship, only minimal touching of her breasts (to help with her orgasms) and cuddling. No touch from her...just some mild nipple play the other day ( heavenly!) I did question several weeks ago and was informed my behavior needs to be ingrained before she thinks of actively teasing me let alone considering an orgasm for me. That said, I have been allowed to anally milk myself several times and been unlocked for Dr. appointments and athletic endeavors where wearing IS NOT an option. No chafing, soreness, no problems keeping hairless. Oh well, I hope this enlightens you. Her toenails await a fresh coat of paint before bedtime!

Hi. 183 days and counting--by far my longest lock-up in the 8 years we have been doing this. Interesting that it follows a nearly 4 month break after one of those "stops" we all seem to encounter on our journeys. We worked through some issues and I looked in the mirror and realized that for this to be legitimate that I must forgo my topping from the bottom and any expectations of how I think she should behave or treat me. I timidly suggested we try again in January and she jumped right on it apparently missing it as much as I. No more directing, no more whining and I am now learning to stifle frustration and disdain about mundane things or requests and just smile. Things are great at the 6 month mark. Plenty of backrubs, footrubs, pedicures, massages, prepared meals/refreshments as my work schedule permits. She is more than satisfied with one of her vibrators 3 to 4 times per week. For this interval my only pleasure has been to hold her closely and feel her explode into orgasmic shudders while laying astride her. I have not questioned it but there is no kissing her on the lips, no oral worship, only minimal touching of her breasts (to help with her orgasms) and cuddling. No touch from her...just some mild nipple play the other day ( heavenly!) I did question several weeks ago and was informed my behavior needs to be ingrained before she thinks of actively teasing me let alone considering an orgasm for me. That said, I have been allowed to anally milk myself several times and been unlocked for Dr. appointments and athletic endeavors where wearing IS NOT an option. No chafing, soreness, no problems keeping hairless. Oh well, I hope this enlightens you. Her toenails await a fresh coat of paint before bedtime!

trust me have been in for much longer than those few days!! a lot depends on the device or the chastity belt! real modern belts, you can live in, without any restriktions in time .........................>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> reg. GWENY

Multiple time past 90 days, but every time lockup ended because the CB-6000 broke in some way. I have a large collection of spare parts at this point.;)

The use of the PA5000 gives no irritation and the cleaning is done each morning in the shower. There is no need to be unlocked at all. The PA5000 does have a design flaw, and its the lock. It can corrode and seize if you do a lot of swimming in the sea as I do. I have overcome this by flushing regularly with fresh water and applying baby oil to the pin which then drains into the lock mechanism which has solved this problem. We had 2 prior failures, which were all replaced free of charge. Eventually if I can find the exact same design in stainless steel I will replace it. Thinking about making one myself, just got to work out the locking mechanism.

Wow im gonna just be good and not have to go that long,30,60,90+ not for me

The longest stretch I've went so far is somewhere between 35 and 40 days. I know it was at least 35 (passing the seven week mark), but can't remember how many days it was after that when my wife just had to get me out of my cage:-)

Hi All. At 180-whatever days I am at now, every jiggling asscheek in tight shorts/skirt/pants, every perfectly pedicured set of feet, every rippling calf muscle, every firm, tanned upper thigh, every ample breast all make me feel an aching fullness in my perineum behind my entrapped balls (most likely my engorged prostate, even with the occasional milking) and a twitching in the head of my penis. Even the crack of dawn looks good now! ...and no end in sight! allaboutHer

Thanks to all for responding. My main reason is to understand the physiological manifestations of the 90 day process. I am tempted to try this myself but also want to know what it is like after it is over and you return to life as it was before, or do you? My guess is like anything else, all experiences change us in some way. The concern for us in not changing who we are, no matter what we do together that never changes, it does evolve. When I let her top for instruction or because we are sharing and teaching each other, each time our M/s gets stronger, I get stronger and give her more of what she desires. So this is more about the effects of long term physical over 90 days for me. I have read all of the accounts of how men are changed in that 90 days, they get the door, treat her like gold etcetera, I do that already, you treat a thoroughbred with great care. Though I get the door because she is not allowed to touch them.

No unlock for any reason what so ever, still on my current stint which is now by far the longest. But I don't have the cleaning and shaving issues due to the device.

Hi everyone Guess what I got for my birthday on Aug 1st this year! I got one year in lock up. I'm locked in my PA 5000 with the DreamLover 2000 attached and my keys have been put in the vault and it's been set for 4 months. The reason that the safe is only for 4 months and not the full year is that is how long the batteries last in the DreamLover. Wish me luck everyone it's going to be a long time before I get to have an orgazam again. PP

After a few weeks you get used to it as the "new normal." My Wife is not into teasing me very much, but She does cuckold me enough to keep things on edge. It's interesting to watch Her having sex knowing that not only is he enjoying Her but that it's adding to my time in "solitary confinement." When i've been given release in the past, i cum quickly and find myself back to my old alpha self, but this clears quickly as the reality of renewed chastity sets in. It's important to mentally "sit back" and accept the sexual denial as the way of life that is mine now. Although i did ask for it, i did not think She would love it so much. i know now that there is not much sense in worrying about the effects of long term chastity. Whatever they may be, they will be.

Say there allabout her...ummmm just a question, > allaboutHer said: > Hi All. > At 180-whatever days I am at now, every jiggling asscheek in tight shorts/skirt/pants, every perfectly pedicured set of feet, every rippling calf muscle, every firm, tanned upper thigh, every ample breast all make me feel an aching fullness in my perineum behind my entrapped balls (most likely my engorged prostate, even with the occasional milking) and a twitching in the head of my penis. Even the crack of dawn looks good now! ...and no end in sight! > allaboutHer > Click to expand... Shouldn't being locked up make you focus on your keyholder? Hopefully your wife or S/O. For me when i am locked up which is 24/7 i cannot even look at another woman lustfully i can't get my eyes and lust off of my Wife. OK If you saw Her you may understand but even if another ALMOST as great looking as her comes in view....nada! So we are all wired differently but just wondering. Maybe this post is wrongly placed and I am NOT going to hi jack a thread. So I will start a new one with this question for now, back to our regular scheduled excitment! subklik

Just sailing through 6 months, all good.

I just reached 100 days, my previous record was only about 3 weeks or so. I've never been so frustrated in my life. I hope this extreme, constant arousal eventually passes. I've been hard or semi-hard constantly for about 4 days now. Even watching TV to distract myself doesn't work anymore.

Way past that. At least in my case, after about 4-5 weeks my entire personna begins to change. Making Madam happy is much easier as the primary focus of my life. Thoughts of sexuality become much more passive feminine. I desire to be taken and used; to be penetrated, and not do the penetrating. But also sexulaity becomes much less a driving force. I easily maintain my focus on my daily tasks, am much more responsive to Madam's needs, and significantly more encouraging and supportive of Madam's assignations. So I don't think it's an issue of a certain amount of time in chastity as much as how long it takes you to actually accept your place in life.

Kalti, that actually never stops for me, but you start to live with it and accept it as normal after some time. It is in fact the reason why you are locked up to remain in a semi aroused state and very attentive to your KH needs and desires. Its a wonderful place to be, would not change it for anything.

young88 - arousal isn't a factor for me. After a few weeks I don't really get aroused unless madam has decided to do something to make that happen. It just is what it is, and my mind accepts that arousal is pointless. My deire to keep Madam happy is not conditional on my sexual feelings.

Is there something about 90 days or so that's special? Because it was only in the past couple of days i reached a level of constant frustration i never knew was possible. I'm trying to give up the constant attempts to cum, but it's really hard to do. I'm sealed up in a Lori #5 by the way. It's ridiculously comfortable (after a lot of trial and error with different designs), i love the constant caress and light squeeze of the tube and the weight of the steel. It feels amazing. All the time, constant pleasure - I don't regret it at all. But over the past week i've been going nuts, just desperate to cum. It's never been this rough before. I can't stop myself from trying to cum. Humped the bed in desperation until my legs gave out. It's a viscious cycle... the more i try, the more frustrated i get. I think once i can get myself to give up trying, i'll probably feel less frustrated. But just the constant caress and weight of the steel is so arousing all by itself.

Kali, Try Mature Metal. The people there are awesome. allabouther - Right on brother. I went through what you are in the middle of a couple years back. Thank god we are past that. I am currently at 101 days since having an orgasm with my Mistress, and 73 days from an orgasm of any kind having had an accident at that time. I was caged for a month for that among other most unpleasent things. Normally i get 2 orgasms a year. My birthday and our aniversary or once every 6 months. I do not wear a cage, unless i do not behave myself as i have been trained to. once i am locked, i never know for how long.

The longest my slave lasted was 50 days—a blend of agony and ecstasy. We both found it quite tough because we are such an intimate couple, and to make that date I had to distance myself from him intimately on several occasions since I just wanted his physical presence alone. Chastity is a very hard game for us both to play—but god, sooooooooo sexy!

It was five months ago two days back. I never thought it would go so well on many levels. Deena

My last orgasm happened on Feb 29, making today my six-month anniversary. Over the past five years I was permitted to cum three or four times annually. The longest continuous stretch lasted just over ten months, while the shortest was about one month. I've been told that my next release will also be on Feb 29, totaling four full years of denial. I often wonder what that day will feel like. After four years, will I beg to cum or refuse it?

Kudos to you toyboy101. It’s quite a journey.

The longest time I was denied while in a relationship was six months, although I used to get out often and we'd have intercourse. My current locked-and-denied period is my record; I haven't been outside at all for over twelve months now. The end of this session is likely another twelve months away, or so they tell me. It could be shorter, but I lean toward it being longer. But since I'm not in a sexual relationship with my keyholder, it's much easier. Those six months while partnered were very different, and I had some confused and mixed feelings about that.

i am on day 111 today. i keep the device quite clean and still have no release date set. sigh

I wish I could hit ninety days, but my wife just won't allow it. She wants to feel me inside her from time to time (her tongue and fingers aren't quite enough for her;) ) and if I manage thirty days, I'd be very happy already!

I'm aiming for it and going beyond emily

i have just begun my venture into chastity with a proper device and KH. so far i have worn the device for three days so there is still a long way to go before hitting ninety days. as i have no say in if/when i am released (or allowed orgasm) i might actually reach that milestone.

I'm on r/nofap and am eighty-eight days into it. It'd be fun to do while wearing a device though.

My record has been one hundred eighty days without a device:)