Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub? discussion

I’m a virgin at 23, staying locked to curb my masturbation habits. It would be great to have someone hold the key for me, but unfortunately there aren’t many around where I live. This has got me considering an online keyholder instead. Since I’m quite shy, the thought of nude photos of myself leaking out on the internet is terrifying. So I was thinking about giving some nudes to a potential holder as leverage; if they wish, they could use these pictures to blackmail me into compliance. I’d wear a numbered lock and you can check in regularly to ensure I don’t remove it without permission. If you catch me slipping out of the device, you have the option (perhaps by posting here?) to reveal my nude photos to others. Maybe not full-body shots would be better—less revealing than that. Pictures showing just my penis online wouldn’t bother me quite as much though. It sounds like a promising concept; what do you all think? Any questions or comments?

I feel like you're approaching this incorrectly. To me personally, I don't believe blackmail-style arrangements are the best path. There are plenty of keyholders online (not counting those who might be scams) who enjoy managing guys just like yourself. Over time, I've experimented with various people virtually, and the secret is building a genuine connection where you genuinely respect your keyholder enough to avoid disobeying them naturally. In return, they get to tease and deny you through virtual sessions or other methods. What you describe feels somewhat cold and clinical; in my view, that's no different than simply placing a chastity device key inside a timed safe.

Yes, but most time-lock safes I'm aware of are too pricey for my budget.

What about using the ice method? Step 1: Grab a large bowl and fill it halfway with water. Step 2: Leave it overnight to freeze solid. Step 3: Let that frozen half-bowl thaw just enough so there's liquid water on top of the block. Step 4: Top up the rest of the bowl with additional water. Step 5: Drop your chastity device key into the bowl; it should sit halfway down, submerged but resting on the original ice layer. Step 6: Freeze everything together completely You allow slight thawing in step 3 so both layers bond seamlessly when refreezing. If you skip this, the whole block might split easily later to retrieve your key. Now, you remain locked until that chunk of ice melts away.

That could work well, but since I don't live alone, explaining a frozen block with a key inside might be tricky.

The ice method wouldn't really suit my current living setup either.

There is also the keysafe project available. It offers a 'virtual' option (with Strict Mistress) but allows you to upgrade to a real online relationship once you find someone suitable.