Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

My spouse and I have dabbled in chastity for several years. Roughly three months back, we decided to commit fully and established a set of rules for me to follow. She agreed to keep my obedience in check through punishment (the specifics were left up to her discretion).

We also included an escape clause: if either party decides to leave the arrangement, it is over permanently with no looking back. She can withdraw at any time she feels I am not conducting myself properly. As for me, I have two specific windows to opt out: one after those initial three months and then once a year on my birthday.

After some rocky beginnings where she punished me frequently for breaking rules, I settled into the 24/7 dynamic. Honestly, it was tough at first; because I believed I could charm her into leniency, I didn’t always respect the guidelines. She has since made it clear that she holds the power. While I am constantly aroused now, it helps in many ways because my mind isn’t constantly worrying about how to escape.

By the end of those first three months, we were intimate on a near-daily basis (with me locked up), which is quite different from the once-a-week or biweekly routine before chastity.

When that initial quarter ended, I felt somewhat torn. Part of me wanted relief, but part of me enjoyed our new dynamic. When I asked her what she preferred, it was evident she liked how things were going. She noted that if I left now, we would likely revert to old habits that didn’t satisfy either of us fully. Even if I did leave, she expected me to still follow the non-chastity rules and kept the right to use a crop on me for disobedience. To her, chastity was separate from obedience.

After a long day of deliberation, I handed back the keys with the lock still engaged. She said she knew I would choose wisely. She allowed herself pleasure first, then used the crop on me afterward because she wasn’t happy with my indecisiveness regarding our future and how long it took me to make up my mind. That was about a week ago.

I am now locked in for another seven months at her discretion for releases. Last night, she mentioned that if I want to keep getting roughly monthly releases, I need to improve my behavior. She also suggested we have weekly evaluations combined with discipline sessions so I can learn to submit more effectively. Punishment isn’t really my favorite thing and she knows it, but I am reluctant to challenge her because questioning is against the rules, and past experience tells me she will punish me for doing just that.

I plan to go along with things for now, but if it becomes too much, we’ll have a talk. Even so, it remains a mutual agreement.

It seems like a solid beginning and arrangement to me, and she appears to be really getting the hang of things... Perhaps suggest that during your evaluation meeting, you should have the chance to speak openly about any wants or concerns. That would give you a good opportunity to bring up issues that could impact the long-term relationship.