Introductions discussion

Hi, I’m Kelli and I am in my forties; Bill is my husband and we started our journey toward male chastity over five years ago. When Bill first told me he wanted to be locked up, I thought he had completely lost his mind. The man who raised two wonderful children, a college-educated professional well-respected in our community—he asked me to lock him away? Bill admitted that his need for the lock and key stemmed from his addiction to internet pornography and masturbation. He explained that he could masturbate up to three times daily and spend as much as $500 each month on online porn sites. I started researching this topic alongside my younger sister, and at first we were both shocked by all the videos, photos, and postings I would call the dark side of chastity. However, we pursued it a bit more, bought some good books, and connected with several wonderful ladies who explained the FLR lifestyle better. With much trepidation on my part five years ago, Bill and I began this beautiful journey, and honestly, I wouldn’t go back. A year after our journey started, my sister told me she wanted to find a way to get her husband locked up too. If you accept me into your community, I may share how we both developed a plan that worked not only for my sister but also for a few of my girlfriends (which was quite embarrassing for Bill by the way). But first, I want to ensure I am welcomed here and reveal a bit more about myself and Bill. First, Bill and I are in a monogamous relationship, meaning we are committed solely to each other. Second, because of Bill’s past history with porn addiction, I DO NOT allow him to view any pornography whatsoever. This rule applies even to forums like this one; I have gone so far as to install spyware on his computer that alerts me if he does. Third, I’ve been planning to write a book about male chastity for some time but recently changed direction and decided to create both a book and a website focused more on reviews of male chastity devices and the FLR lifestyle. And lastly, most importantly so you know where my head is at: I consider Bill and I normal (vanilla) in every way. We are BOTH professionals in our respective fields, we have two wonderful kids away at college, we have a great marriage, but we do share one SMALL kink. I completely control what he can and cannot do with his penis, even how he uses it to go to the bathroom. I hope you are willing to accept my guidelines and welcome me into your community so we can help other like-minded couples together in their journey. With Love, Kelli O.

Kelli, as far as I'm concerned you're very accepted and I'm pleased to see you here.

Thank you Mascara - Trying to learn how to navigate this site and update my profile right now. First time I've subscribed to a forum like this. Also compliment the admins for putting a site like this together, lots of great info and hope to meet new like minded people.

It is wonderful to have you join us. Welcome! I too, savor the joys of male chastity. My husband and I are very much in love and play within this relationship. We do have a serious side and practice FLR and would not have it any other way. Pleased to welcome you and your husband if you permit. I'm sure we have many things to share. Most months we decide on some type of game or theme for our play. I do practice domestic discipline and we live D/s. We recognize every relationship is different and that is what makes the community a fun, yet excepting, and non-judgmental place to frequent. Warm greetings

Welcome Kelli, enjoy and above all, have fun.

Yes welcome to the mansion.....

Hi Kelli, a very warm welcome from me too

Wow, thanks everyone for such a warm welcome and allowing me into your community, I am honored. First off I hope I didn’t offend anyone by my remark about the dark side of male chastity. My point of view is that whatever 2 or more consenting adults do in the privacy of their home is their business. What I find offensive is the way a lot of this stuff is marketed and the knock off crap being peddled to the uneducated on sites like Amazon and eBay. Bill’s first device was purchased on Amazon and it almost caused a serious injury. We called the company we thought made it and was told that this was a cheap knock off made in China. Your forum is very educational however someone like Bill or I that have very little free time so we don’t have the resources to sift through everything. So the idea of writing an eBook and a website popped into my head a few months ago. I’m 80% done with the book and one of my close business associates is a professional web developer has volunteered to lend a hand. I am also contemplating doing some videos as he does have a studio we can use, however I am very fearful of someone recognizing me thus putting Bill’s job and his reputation on the line. Anyway I cannot find the words to thank you for your open arms. Prior to the release of my book I would love to have some of you guys/gals review it for your commentary. Kelli O.

Thank you MistressL but because of Bill's prior history with Internet Porn I do not allow him any access to sites that I would rate above PG. When we began our journey back in 2007 I only agreed to it because I was shocked that he was spending as much as $500 a month on membership sites. So our initial agreement was I would hold his key as long as he promised to never again look at any pornography. Of course I don't trust him so I have this site along with several others blocked in our router at home. I've also installed spyware on his computer that will alert me if he types anything sexual. I also forbid him from erasing his history on his computer and mobile device and I check them both frequently. I know that this may sound extreme to some of you but this is my #1 requirement in our relationship. A side benefit of course I'm afforded the privacy to chat with everyone here in the open to learn new techniques without him knowing about it <grin> > MistressL said: > Pleased to welcome you and your husband if you permit. I'm sure we have many things to share. > Click to expand...

Welcome and enjoy!

Hello Kelli, Welcome to the party:) Great having you here.