Every advert here assumes the person writing back is a man

I have read this board for a year and nearly every advert from a woman who leads describes the man she is looking for. I am not one. I am a woman who wants to submit to a woman, and there is nowhere on here where that is assumed, so I have spent a year quietly working out whether I am in the wrong place. I have decided that I am not.

Thirty four, Didsbury, six years in, one arrangement of two years that ended when she moved to Glasgow.

What I want is unremarkable and more or less identical to what half the men here are asking for. Standing duties, a household run to somebody else's standard, a fixed day, and correction that is plain rather than kind. The only difference is who is doing the writing.

I raise the obvious because it saves time. If your advert says man because that is genuinely what you want, that is entirely your business and a one line no will not offend me in the slightest. If it says man because it never came up, I would like you to know there is at least one of us down here reading.

What I do not want is to be somebody's first experiment with a woman, or to be told that this is refreshing. I have had both and neither went anywhere I wanted to be.