I would like to do somebody's shopping and plan a household's food

What I want to be responsible for is the food. Not cooking a nice meal occasionally, the whole boring apparatus: what is in the house, what runs out on a Thursday, what she will not touch, what she has already had twice this week. It is the least interesting offer on this board and it is the one that would take real weight off somebody.

Forty five, Stockport, three days a week in a builders merchant and four days empty. Divorced nine years, a grown son I see monthly.

I did this for a woman for two years before she moved to Leeds. It began as one errand and became the whole of a household's food, and what I valued was that after about six months she stopped thinking about it entirely. Being able to stop thinking about something is the actual gift, and it takes months of not getting it wrong before anybody can hand it over.

What I want is standing orders rather than requests. A list I keep myself, a standard she sets, and being told plainly when I have bought the wrong thing, which I will.

Nothing paid and nothing owed, and I would not take a penny for the time. What I do not want is to be thanked for each trip, because a thing you get thanked for is a favour, and what I am asking for is a duty.