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I own a car in this city, which makes me more useful than I am interesting

Posted as car_and_a_bridge, 18 August 2026, from the Jersey side

Wants
somebody who needs the driving done and the errands run
Experience
Five years, one arrangement, mostly logistics.
Around
the Jersey side, New York

I have a car, a garage, a clean record and a tolerance for traffic that borders on a medical condition. In this city that is a rarer offer than anything about my personality, and I have made my peace with being valued for it.

Forty four, the Jersey side, five years in. The one arrangement I had lasted two years and consisted almost entirely of driving. Airport runs at four in the morning. The big shop she could not carry on the subway. Her mother, twice a month, out on the island, an hour each way with a woman who did not know who I was and talked the whole time. That last one is the thing I was proudest of and it is not a story that makes sense to anybody outside this.

What I want is to be that again. Standing runs on fixed days, plus whatever comes up, plus a rule that I do not get told why.

I will not take gas money. That has been offered every time and refused every time, and I have learned to say it at the start rather than have an argument in a parking garage.

What I am not: interested in anything physical, interested in being company on the drive, or available for anything with less than a day's notice, because I have a job and a bridge between me and everybody. I am, however, absolutely reliable, which in five years nobody has ever complained about.

Where this one puts you on the route

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  1. 01 What a dynamic actually involves, shape by shape
  2. 02 The venue types that work, with honest odds
  3. 05 The first meeting, and why protocol stays at home

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