Service only, nothing physical ever, and I am not going to change

Nothing physical, nothing sexual, ever. Not held back for later, not something that might develop, not a limit I am hoping somebody will patiently work around. I have been the same for eight years and I expect to be the same in twenty.

Forty six, the west. I say it in the second message every time and about half of the conversations end there, which is fine, and about a quarter continue with somebody who has not really taken it in, which is less fine and has twice ended badly at a point where somebody felt misled despite my having said it twice in writing.

What I want is to be useful in a household and answerable for it. Duties, a standard, correction. Being depended on for a specific set of things over a long period. There is an enormous amount in this that has nothing to do with bodies and I have never once felt I was missing anything.

I know what the objection is. People assume this means I want to be told no, as a sort of game. That is not it either. There is no charge in the refusal because there is no offer under it. It is simply not part of my life and never has been.

If your arrangement needs that in it, we are not compatible and I would rather we both worked that out in the first exchange. If what you actually need is a competent adult who will do what he is told and never once make it awkward, I am unusually well suited.