Wanted · London · Service and duty
I do not want to be looked at. I want to be used for things
- Wants
- a woman with a practical problem and no interest in ceremony
- Experience
- Three years, one arrangement, and a lot of moving furniture.
- Around
- the east, London
Everything I have read about service seems to assume a certain amount of ceremony. Kneeling, forms of address, a moment where somebody is inspected. None of that does anything for me and some of it makes me want to leave the room.
Thirty two, the east, three years in. What I want is much blunter. I want to be the person somebody uses when there is a thing that needs doing and doing now. Furniture moved. A flat packed up in a weekend. Six hours of sanding. The thing that is too heavy or too dull or too long for one person.
My one arrangement was with a woman who bought a wreck of a house and I spent most of a year being pointed at problems in it. She never once thanked me, by agreement, because we had both worked out early that the thanks was the bit that made it feel like a favour between friends rather than what it was. That is the closest I have come to explaining what I want out of this.
I am strong, I am free most weekends, and I do not need to be told twice.
I have no interest in anything sexual. I have no interest in protocol, titles or being addressed in any particular way. And there is nothing financial in this from my side or hers, which for the avoidance of doubt includes the offer of a meal at the end, which I would rather decline than have counted.
Where this one puts you on the route
Offering to be useful is a commitment measured in hours a week, not in enthusiasm. These three run from what that costs to what the first meeting looks like.
- 01 What a dynamic actually involves, shape by shape
- 02 The venue types that work, with honest odds
- 05 The first meeting, and why protocol stays at home
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